so...wat is it all about...

it is hard to go on loving someone who cud never be urs, its
harder when the person u love doenst feel the same but its
much harder when the person u love loves u for fun... with
that msg that i received from my fren, Paolo in philippines and
a poem by Eric, it suddenly strike me to start typing things
that im supposed to clear from my head....

relationship...

is it a frenship plus love?

is it an attachment to someone?

is it a burden for the person u love?

is it a sacrifice for the special someone?

by saying 'I LOVE U'

what does it really mean?

u love the person for who he/she is?

u love the person becoz he's plain gorgeous?

u love the person becoz she's a babe?

u love the person becoz he/she is kind to u?

u love the person becoz of the gifts u received?

u love the person becoz of those kind n supportive words?

u love the person as a stepping stone for u?

u love the person becoz u just wan to feel being loved?

u love the person becoz ur plain desperate to be in a relationship?

or u truly love the person from the bottom of ur heart
despite all the conditions u have to go thru for them?

by TRULY loving someone,

it isnt about JUST PLAINLY saying the famous '3 words'

it isnt about sending lots and lots of messages

it isnt about talking to each other for long hours

it isnt about hanging out with each other for many hours

it isnt about throwing tantrum when things go wrong

it isnt about blaming one another when things turn sour

it isnt about being annoyed when being cared about too much

it isnt about being irritated when being asked to much'

it isnt about giving and receiving lots of gifts

and certainly it isnt about neglecting people n things around u

so wat is it about then?

to me...loving someone is..

to spend quality time with them thou its short

to care for them endlessly no matter how they dislike i

tto be with them no matter how busy things will be

to sacrifice for them without complaintto shower them with affection always

to support them when things go haywire

to encourage them when they are down

to be understanding when u just need to

to NOT blame them when there'r misunderstandings

to NOT blame them when there'r arguments

to NOT finger pointing when there'r grudges

to be able to forgive and forget

to be their ears when they need to pour out

to be their pillar when they need the support

to be their eyes when they are lostto be their 'rainbow' when they need some colour in their
gloomy days

to be their 'sunshine' when they need some light

to be their 'moonlight' when they are in darkness...

and certainly NEVER take things for granted

TRULY loving someone

could sometimes be painful

could sometimes be torturing

could sometimes be tearful

could sometimes be suffering

but all these experiences

will only make u more mature

will only make u stronger

as i always believe things happened for a reason

NOT being able to be with the person u love

is indeed an enduring moment in life

is indeed a missing parcel in lifeis indeed something one never wants to experience

is indeed a challege that is not only tough yet suffocating at times

yet..its just another experience in life...

even if u cant be with the person u LOVE, i feel...

we can always pray for their happiness

we are happy when they are happy

we share their sorrow when they are down

we care for them when they need us towe be with them when they need us to

we support them when they are low

as after all, we may be their close or bestest fren after all...

and thats how i have been loving people around me...

LOVE is indeed a complex thing...

different ppl have different opinions...

but before i end...i truly hope that

who ever that is in a relationship..

to truly appreciate it and not taking it for granted.

.who ever that is not..

think carefully before u even start..

understand wat LOVE really means..

coz it certainly need lots of commitment,

sacrifices,

respect,

honesty,

care,

time

and certainly strength mentally.

.to maintain a harmonious r'ship

to maintain a peaceful r'ship

to create a strongly bonded tie..

its not an individual basis..

as it involves ur other half..

to complete u....

i guess that's how serious i take frenship, so..wat difference
will it be for me in a relationship??? i wonder....